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The Secret Shame Hurting Your Relationship
And How to Fix It
The redeemedš¬
March 28, 2024
The bruises we leave on the hearts of those we love often last longer than any physical injury.
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Have you noticed the number of weddings happening in 2024 or is it only me?
I think the last to marry this year would be flogged š
Iām really happy for themā¦
today I want to talk about why you might not be ready for a relationship and this is not because you donāt have money for a wedding or you donāt have the intention of āspoilingā your spouse.
your addictions can destroy your relationshipā¦
obviously, because of the culture in Africa that doesnāt support divorce, we donāt see a lot of hope break but that doesnāt mean they are not suffering.
Pornography addiction can inflict profound harm on romantic relationships, eroding trust, intimacy, and communication.
Impact on Self-Esteem and Body Image:
, Iāve seen low self-esteem manifest in different ways in both gendersā¦
It can manifest in women as an inability to say no to āsexual favorsā. At the same time, Men may feel insecure about their appearance, sexual performance, or masculinity, leading to negative body image issues and a lack of confidence in their physical selves.
Communication Breakdown:
Addiction can severely impede this essential aspect. Addicted individuals may resort to secrecy and dishonesty to conceal their behavior, creating a cycle of deceit that undermines open and honest communication.
Furthermore, the effects of porn addiction on communication extend beyond mere concealment. Addicted individuals may become emotionally withdrawn or defensive when confronted about their behavior, making it difficult for their partner to express their concerns or needs openly. This communication breakdown can deepen feelings of alienation and worsen existing issues within the relationship.
Intimacy:
Men with low self-esteem stemming from sexual abuse or porn addiction may avoid intimacy with their partners. They might have difficulty forming close emotional connections or fear vulnerability, leading to a reluctance to engage in intimate activities. (I have seen this!!!)
And this is the same with women.
Itās not about getting into a relationship oh, are you healed?
Next week Iāll start talking about solutions but I think you should watch this video of me talking about this topic
, If you want to have a one-on-one meeting with me, you can schedule the meeting here, just make sure you are at the meet 5 minutes before it starts
With Love,
Evangelist Emeka Ezera
Chief Growth Explorer,
Growth Squad š±āØ
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